The Beauty We Inherit: Aging, Motherhood & the Power of Self-Kindness
The Beauty We Inherit
There’s a certain softness that surrounds Mother’s Day. Whether you celebrate your mom, your grandmother, a chosen maternal figure, or the version of yourself that’s still learning how to mother your own heart — it stirs something deeper.
As a holistic esthetician in Bend, Oregon, I have the honor of witnessing women at all stages of life come into my studio — carrying both their stories and their skin with them. I see the joy, the tenderness, the stress, and the self-doubt. And more often than not, I hear the same quiet worry whispered beneath it all:
“I’m starting to see more lines. I feel like I’m losing my glow.”
Let’s Talk About That Glow
We’ve been taught to believe beauty is youth. That smooth, unlined skin is the goal. But what if the real glow comes from somewhere deeper?
Aging isn’t something to fear or fix — it’s something to honor. And when I think of that truth, I often think of my mother. The way her smile forms, the creases that hold laughter and strength. The way I don’t see flaws when I look at her — only warmth and beauty.
And then I wonder… why don’t I offer myself that same grace?
If you've ever felt insecure about aging skin — you're not alone.
But what if your skincare routine became an act of reverence instead of repair?
Aging Is a Privilege. Care Is a Ritual.
The lines around your eyes? They tell stories of joy.
The changes in your skin? They’re a testament to the life you’ve lived.
Instead of resisting aging, I believe in softening toward it.
Holistic skincare isn’t about erasing — it’s about supporting. About creating daily rituals that help your skin feel nourished and your soul feel seen.
That’s why I use Botnia, a plant-based skincare line designed to gently care for aging skin without harsh chemicals or fear-based marketing.
Because beauty isn't frozen in time. It's living. Evolving. Inherited.
Mother’s Day at Finesse Esthetics: An Invitation to Celebrate Beauty Differently
This month, I want to invite you to celebrate beauty not as something we chase, but something we return to.
Whether you're honoring your mother, yourself, or the generations of women who came before you, I’ve created something special to support that ritual of care:
✨ Mother’s Day Specials
Buy a $100 gift card → Receive a $25 credit for yourself
15% off all Botnia skincare products (in-studio or online)
This is the perfect way to share the gift of emotional self-care, holistic support, and skin that feels deeply nurtured.
How to Embrace Aging with Grace
If you're unsure how to shift your mindset around aging or where to begin with skincare for mature skin, here are a few gentle places to start:
🌿 Choose products with calming, healing botanicals like calendula, rose, and comfrey (all found in Botnia’s line)
🧖♀️ Build time into your week for intentional facial massage — it softens both muscle tension and emotional stress
🫶 Speak to yourself the way you would speak to your mother or daughter — with tenderness, not criticism
🕯️ Create rituals of care (a warm compress, a cup of tea, 5 minutes of silence) and treat them as sacred
Final Thoughts
Beauty is not one moment in time.
It’s the way your mother smiled at you when you were five.
It’s the way you hold space for others.
It’s the quiet resilience you carry, even when the world feels heavy.
This Mother’s Day — let’s return to that.
Let’s honor the beauty we inherit, the care we give, and the skin we’re learning to love again.
With love,
Vanessa
Owner & Holistic Esthetician at Finesse Esthetics, Bend, OR